Decision 1
Who carries?
One of you, both of you, or both of you at different times? Each has emotional and practical implications. There's no right answer, just the one that fits you both.
For two · Two mums
Building your family, your way.
There are decisions unique to many two-mum journeys. Who carries, what kind of donor, and how you'll talk about it later. They're not problems to solve. They're the work of designing your family on your own terms.
Note from us
You're talking to the people who built this brand because of the path we took to parenthood.
Hapū Helpers exists because the two of us (Taryn and Kat) wanted to start our family. Our journey, our story, and everything we wished we'd had became this business. When we say we've been there, we mean it literally.
AU legal note: If you're using home insemination with a known donor and are married or in a de facto relationship, your partner is generally recognised as the second legal parent at birth.
We still recommend putting any donor agreement in writing before insemination and seeking legal advice where appropriate.
For specialist support, visit our support page.
A path through
The most common starting point for two-mum families.
Decide donor first
Known or clinic donor
Most decisions cascade from this one. Take time on it.
In parallel
Whoever carries should start tracking
Cycle tracking gives you a head start, even if you're months away from trying.
Then
Home insemination
The most common first step for two-mum TTC. Lower cost, more privacy and often less complexity than starting with a clinic.
Always
Lean on community
Nobody understands this journey quite like someone who's already walked it.