8 Mistakes to Avoid When Trying to Conceive (And Other Common Pitfalls)

Since we get so many questions on things relating to do’s and don’ts from couples trying to conceive, we decided to construct this blog to discuss some basics. There are a few common missteps that can make the journey harder than it needs to be, so let’s break them down and talk about how to improve your chances of success.

1. Timing Intercourse Incorrectly

   One of the biggest misconceptions is that conception can happen at any time during the cycle. In reality, a woman’s fertile window is only about six days per cycle, with peak fertility occurring in the two days leading up to ovulation. From our recent queries it’s clear that many couples either start too late or stop too soon.

   What to do instead: Track ovulation using ovulation predictor kits (OPKs), basal body temperature (BBT) charting, or apps to identify the most fertile days. Having intercourse or inseminating every other day during the fertile window improves the chances of conception.

1. Relying Too Much on Cycle Apps

   Period and ovulation tracking apps can be helpful, but they aren’t foolproof. Many of them predict ovulation based on average cycle lengths rather than individual hormonal patterns, which can lead to mistimed attempts.

   What to do instead: Use apps as a guide but combine them with OPKs, BBT tracking, or cervical mucus monitoring for more accuracy.

1. Using the Wrong Lubricants

   Most lubricants contain sperm-killing ingredients or create a hostile environment for sperm, making it harder to conceive.

   What to do instead: Opt for fertility-friendly lubricants like Pre-Seed or BabyDance, which mimic cervical mucus and support sperm mobility. Another option is to take mucinex during your ovulation period.

1. Not Addressing Underlying Health Issues

   Conditions like polycystic ovary syndrome (PCOS), endometriosis, thyroid disorders, or low sperm count can impact fertility, but many couples overlook them until they face difficulties.

   What to do instead: Get a preconception health check-up. If you’ve been trying for a year (or six months if over 35) without success, consult a fertility specialist.

1. Overlooking Sperm Health

   Fertility isn’t just about the person carrying the baby—sperm health plays an equally crucial role. Factors like poor diet, excessive alcohol, smoking, and overheating (from hot tubs, laptops on laps, or tight underwear) can negatively impact sperm quality.

   What to do instead: The partner producing sperm should maintain a balanced diet, stay hydrated, limit alcohol, avoid smoking, and consider supplements that like Amitamin Fertilsan M to support sperm health.

1. Stressing Too Much About Conception

   Trying to conceive can become emotionally overwhelming, leading to stress, which may disrupt hormonal balance and ovulation. Stress can also cause the body to tighten up which can impact how the sperm travels.

   What to do instead: If you can, practice stress-reducing techniques like meditation, yoga, acupuncture, or light exercise. If you cannot make sure to reduce the amount of stress your body is usually subjected to. Also, ensure emotional well-being by discussing concerns with your partner or seeking support from a professional.

1. Ignoring Nutrition and Lifestyle

   Poor diet, excessive caffeine, smoking, and a sedentary lifestyle can all negatively impact fertility.

   What to do instead: Eat a fertility-friendly diet rich in whole foods, lean proteins, healthy fats, and antioxidants. Reduce caffeine intake, quit smoking, and engage in moderate exercise to maintain a healthy weight.

1. Not Seeking Help Soon Enough

   Many couples wait too long before getting medical advice, assuming they just need to keep trying.

   What to do instead: If under 35, consult a doctor after one year of trying. If over 35, seek help after six months. Those with irregular cycles, known reproductive health conditions, or past pregnancy losses may need to see a specialist even sooner.

Other Mistakes to Avoid

1. Assuming Age Doesn’t Matter

   Fertility naturally declines with age, particularly after 35. Understanding how age affects conception can help with planning and managing expectations.

1. Over-Testing and Overthinking Every Symptom

   It’s easy to obsess over every twinge or symptom during the two-week wait. Taking multiple early pregnancy tests can lead to unnecessary stress.

1. Not Discussing the Journey as a Couple or with a support person

   TTC can be emotionally taxing. Open communication and supporting each other through the process are key to maintaining a strong relationship.

1. Waiting Too Long to Consider Alternative Paths

   If conception isn’t happening naturally, options like intrauterine insemination (IUI), in vitro fertilisation (IVF), or donor sperm may be worth exploring.

Trying to conceive is a journey that requires patience, knowledge, and adaptability. By avoiding these common mistakes and making informed choices, you can increase your chances of a successful pregnancy. Every person's path is unique—so be kind to yourselves, seek support when needed, and trust the process!

If you need help going through any block, talking with a TTC consultant can help! Book a FREE 15 minute virtual consult today!